You will notice the title of this blog is strictly “ways I get through a bad day” – and not advice for how YOU should get through a bad day. Some of my tips and tricks I use to make myself feel better are not what self-help sites on the internet and books will tell you, but this is not a self-help site. This is a site to be fucking real.
We have all had days like this. I’m not talking about when you have a heartbreaking breakup, or someone passes away. That is a totally separate beast. I’m talking about the kind of day when maybe work sucks, or maybe the kind of day when every single thing is just not going your way and you feel like you can’t win. Or maybe the kind of day when you just are sad for no fucking reason and can’t shake your way out of it.
Here are some ways I get through a bad day.
Go to the gym.
I’m not talking about the whole “exercise gives you endorphins, endorphins make you happy, and happy people just don’t kill their husband kind of thing.” I’m talking about when something is just pissing you off so much that you pop in your favorite playlist (in this kind of state, I go for 2000’s emo hits – A Day to Remember, My Chemical Romance, Taking Back Sunday – yes PLEASE) and just fucking RUN until you are so tired out from it you’re completely beat. This is what I will do on a bad day when I’m really pissed, angry or worked up about something – if I’m just straight up sad, I definitely won’t be at the gym.
Take a long, hot shower.
There is no better place to be alone with your thoughts than a long, hot shower. No matter how shitty of a mental place I’m in, a shower always makes me feel (slightly better). I stay in there until I’m sick of thinking about what is pissing me off so much, and once I notice my mind has shifted, I get out. If I’m up for it, a face mask after will do wonders.
Play my guitar
Playing guitar is a new hobby for me, in fact before I picked it up I didn’t have much of a hobby at all. Channeling my thoughts into something creative does help me distract from whatever is bothering me. I’m so new at it, that I have fun practicing and playing around with chords and notes, and it requires a different part of my brain’s attention than if I say, am turning on a funny movie that my mind can easily wander from.
Literally anytime I’m having a bad day (or a good day, sometimes) I turn on Friends. I’ve seen every episode a million times but it makes me laugh, I don’t have to concentrate on something new, and it just always makes me feel better. Friends has been there for me at truly the hardest of times.
I told you this is not what the internet would recommend. I know you’re not supposed to “drink to feel better, you’re supposed to drink to feel even better.” But you know what? I’m not saying I get wasted by myself, but on a bad or stressful day, having a glass or two of scotch neat makes me feel better. The catch to this, is I try not to drink wine if I’m feeling sad or in a bad mood. I don’t ever want to start associating my favorite white wine with negative emotions – and usually when I’m in this kind of state I want the hard stuff anyway.
Similar to playing the guitar, I find that doing something hands-on and channeling energy into something else really helps me. I love to cook – I’ll find a new recipe, blast some music and get to it in the kitchen to make myself feel better.
Vent to One Person You Know Who Will Care
There was a point in time I used to vent to anyone and everyone who would listen, but found that was not fulfilling at all and would honestly just piss me off when people couldn’t totally understand or didn’t react exactly the way I wanted them to. Now, I go directly to one friend, who I know I can vent to and who will be there. I definitely prefer text over phone call in these situations because I just want to lie in bed and fire off thoughts.
I’m a big fan of journaling – I try to at least once a week to recap the week and set intentions for the next. If I’m having a bad day, I definitely just write whatever the hell is on my mind, what’s pissing me off, and try to make sense of my emotions.
Lay on my couch and feel sorry for myself
You heard me. Sometimes, you just need to lay down and wallow, and do whatever the fuck you need to do in this moment. Whether that’s mindlessly surfing TV stations, scrolling through social media (yes, I know there is probably no better way to feel worse than to go on social media, I told you I don’t recommend it but that is what I do) or texting a friend, I just do whatever I feel I need to do. I spend so much time doing what I think I “should” be doing and sometimes you just need to stop for a minute and breathe.
Plan something for the future
For me, planning my next trip is always something that makes me feel better, because it makes me hopeful for a time that I will be out of the state that I’m in. Travel makes me excited and inspired, so looking up flights and planning my next adventure helps to pull me out of my funk.
What do you do to make yourself feel better on a shitty day? Let me know in the comments below!